Blog: Self Development Coaching

'I Am Not a Caregiver' & 'I Am Coping'

Would you say that coping well is important? Coping is a skill that allows us to salad toss our everyday busy lives. For many of us, the daily salad mix includes family members helping family members in this sandwich generation caregiving culture. As the zoomers continue to age, there are and will be more adult children not only caring for their own children…they will also be caring for their parents in varying degrees while also holding a job outside of the home. A number of older adults are and will be caring for their chronically ill spouses while also working outside of the home and/or having healthcare issues of their own. Under these circumstances, the ability to cope is vital for our

From Motivation to Activation: Illusion to Reality!

We do not have to be rocket scientists to know that it takes more than motivation to make positive lasting change in our lives. We require other qualities such as self-compassion, commitment, patience, and discipline. We also need to be realistic. Have you ever wanted something so badly that you became overambitious in your abilities to achieve it, unrealistic- perhaps just a bit unrealistic? It can be a challenge to be realistic when motivators tell you to "Dream Big" and "Shoot for the Stars". Such was the case for Stan Goldberg, PhD as he relays his own experience in his article Why Motivation Alone Stinks : A number of years ago I enrolled in an expensive cycle training program guarant

Self-Compassion as Motivation for Self-Care

Take one...Action; Take two...Action...Unless we are acting for film or television, we can not redo our actions. We can be satisfied, regret and ask forgiveness for our actions but we cannot take them back. The fact that we can not take back our actions could serve as enough motivation for taking positive actions in our work, relationships and self-care. It is not that easy though when we indulge as diabetics in the sweets, when we spend countless hours on the computer rather than in the gym exercising, when we do not seek out help as exhausted caregivers of a chronically ill family member. Is it possible that the expressions "We are our own worst enemy" or "We only have ourselves to blame"

Caregiver-Challenged: What does Grief have to do with it?

What does grief have to do with the challenges that caregivers face while providing the needs for family members who are living with a serious chronic illness? As a culture, we have come to have tunnel-vision when it comes to grief. Even though there are many contexts where there is grief experienced, it is really most commonly associated with death. That may be the reason why grief does not get addressed in contexts other than death. In order to associate grief with the caregiving experience, we need to be open to viewing grief differently. There are many situations we may find ourselves in that give us a fair amount of "grief' - and we may ourselves describe it as such. For instance, a si

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